Relationship #5

What i learned from relationship seminar on mon night. quite useful and perhaps food for thoguht for you too

in terms of being self expressed and completions, the #1 formula is 

1. giving up my point of view

2. share my inauthenticity w the other party - ie what have i been inauthentic about w him / her

3. do it in the context of generating and expressing love/partnership/romance, ie what it is you are committed to creating w him

4. don't do the conversation like dumping all you want to say onto him, but have it as a genuine conversation where you open up, which can also encourage him to do the same. 

sorry should have sent you earlier, i actually thought of you when i wrote this down in class, but been overwhelmed w stuff. anyways hope it's helpful. 

Day 22 - let's recalibrate

Starting today I am going to very carefully measure what I eat in terms of calories, food compositions and the times I eat. So here is today's food diary:

Breakfast: 1 sweet potato, size of my right hand with 5 fingers closed together
Lunch + afternoon tea: 2/3 cup of mixed beans, fist sized pork and 2 bowls of soup
Dinner: 1/3 cup of Caesar (with salad dressing so I quickly disposed of it), and a salmon steak, with of 3 fingers and length of my hand (quite fatty, I ate the skin too).

Exercise: 30 mins of mild meditative standing poses

Very happy that Y told me during dinner that I am indeed a very good listener these days. Being a clearing for what other people have to say. Rather than listening to my own internal conversations and waiting for my turn to speak.

Also happy that I honoured my word and went to dinner w Y rather than bailing last minute due to the presentation I have to do that is due tomorrow.

It is not the number of hours I put into doing this, but rather, what I actually do in those hours.

Commitment, how bad do i want this? burning desire

i take challenges proactively and use setback as a driving force
i apply creative and innovative solutions to problems to achieving my goals
i anticipate problems and always prepare backup plans
i am principle oriented and make certain that specific goals, plans and milestones are set
i dare to take risks and embrace entrepreneurial spirit
i show determination to achieve goals over time and resist any pressure to be deflected from this attainment

Isagenix - Day 1

Day 1 of Isa 30 day program
I was pretty excited to start it. But first day is pretty hard, mostly because I got hungry fairly easily and had to take an apple and a pear in the afternoon to make up for it.

5 things each day - CP, on Jack Canfield,
what can i do in my life? 5 things each day
5 presentations, talk to 5 new people every day about this - consistency. 5 invitations / launch parties, research 5 people each day. Inspire 5 people in their lives.

High achievers never give up, they practice their persistence.
writer got rejected once a week for four years

MJ was cut from his high school bball team.
Coca cola only sold 400 bottles in first year

churchill was rejected from oxbridge
1962-68, 9 albums all commercial failures (diana ross)

Follow up with prospect after 1st contact.
only 10% of sales contact prospect more than 3 times. loss of opportunity!!!
3%, 2%, 10%, 80% sales made after 5-12th contact

Choose and chew

Went hiking with Cap Sun this morning to the peak. It was a very enjoyable walk mainly because of the connection we have. The key takeaways were choose and chew.

I always have a problem in choosing. Just look at the pile of stuff I always have, pondering whether to keep them or throw them away. Fearing that if I throw them away, I am missing out on something. The key is to choose powerfully and then be content with my choice. Without fretting or regretting.

Another is to chew until the stuff in my mouth is mushy. Start with 30 and move to 100 chews on each bite.

Roberto Bolle

Discipline. Responsibility. Influence the world with ballet.
 

Stop talking. Start doing.

Last Wed, J told me my job 90% won't be available and I was in a big shock but still promised to finish all my work, the deliverables.

What I want
- don't procrastinate in responding to people, don't go AWOL on responding to people (delay in responding to S's email when she's helping me, delay in responding to S's msg when I'm requesting a meeting)
- if people contact me incessantly to the point of stalking, just reply them say i will get back to them, rather than AWOL
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Assignment for the day from my buddy A:
1) stop telling people what I got (unless they ask) and start living it. People will see it for themselves
2) be quiet and listen today, like a monk who choose not to speak

Stop talking and start taking actions! Live into the FUTURE I am creating today.

The future I want!
1) Start my side business by June (skin care, communications)
2) Lose 10 kg by 30 Jun 2013
3)

Go beyond yourself and think about what you want to contribute to other people.

I want to make a difference in the following ways:
1. people can see their possibilities and live their dreams
2. speech and presentation meeting
3. create business that produce products people need, and can use with peace of mind
(baby clothing, men's skincare,
neglected things

FROM NOTHING, I AM NOW THE POSSIBILITY OF EVERYONE IN THE WORLD LIVE THEIR DREAMS!

I WANT TO DREAM BIG: WHAT DO I REALLY WANT??
1. my own business, create value, I want to achieve turnover of HK$1m by next Feb.
2. start communication / coaching / presentation business

think about what I could do for others.
1. life coach
2. public speaking and confidence
3. be inspiring by doing what I'm scared off

People who are inspiring they go to do what people don't dare to do. They are just normal people who have done something extraordinary.

What has worked for me?
1. Running - just set a goal and put in a structure of running 3x a week and do it, without thinking too much. So I NEED TO DO THAT AS WELL.
2. I just call people up without thinking too much to complete. Without hesitation or story.