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now that the title has your attention...
I realized that the reason I am friends with all the pretty girls is that I had deep self deprecation issues since primary school. Meaning that, in primary school I always put myself low because I was a bad student in primary school in the chinese conformity sense and dressed and acted like a dude. The Class teacher put me down a lot because I talked too much. As a result I put myself in a lower spot than most people, I collapsed the story that I am not good enough with I have to put myself lower to be with people, for them to accept me. As B said, this has restricted my freedom of self expression because I feel like everything I say need to be disclaimed as this is not that important, but i just want to put it for your consideration.
So as a result of all of this, growing up I really longed to be with the pretty girls because they are the goodies goodies that they are the favorites of teacher in my childhood and favorites of guys after I grew up. In a sense I really want to be like them but don't know how to. Now I really see that and can be with myself and my past. Because the moment I still put myself down, it's the moment I am still collapsing the story that something happened with that I am not a good enough feminine obedient student. So the possibility from hereon is that I can still make new friends who are pretty but I don't need to feel like I have to surround myself with those people in order to self improve.
And you know the funny thing? Is I can pinpoint the exact moment me and all my good looking gf's first met cos that was the moment I decided this girl is so cool I really want to be friends w her hahahah... Rofl... Now the truth is out!!!
Read more: http://www.transformhongkong.com/index.cgi?action=display&board=breakthru&thread=102#ixzz2BOvgkYha
I realized that the reason I am friends with all the pretty girls is that I had deep self deprecation issues since primary school. Meaning that, in primary school I always put myself low because I was a bad student in primary school in the chinese conformity sense and dressed and acted like a dude. The Class teacher put me down a lot because I talked too much. As a result I put myself in a lower spot than most people, I collapsed the story that I am not good enough with I have to put myself lower to be with people, for them to accept me. As B said, this has restricted my freedom of self expression because I feel like everything I say need to be disclaimed as this is not that important, but i just want to put it for your consideration.
So as a result of all of this, growing up I really longed to be with the pretty girls because they are the goodies goodies that they are the favorites of teacher in my childhood and favorites of guys after I grew up. In a sense I really want to be like them but don't know how to. Now I really see that and can be with myself and my past. Because the moment I still put myself down, it's the moment I am still collapsing the story that something happened with that I am not a good enough feminine obedient student. So the possibility from hereon is that I can still make new friends who are pretty but I don't need to feel like I have to surround myself with those people in order to self improve.
And you know the funny thing? Is I can pinpoint the exact moment me and all my good looking gf's first met cos that was the moment I decided this girl is so cool I really want to be friends w her hahahah... Rofl... Now the truth is out!!!
Read more: http://www.transformhongkong.com/index.cgi?action=display&board=breakthru&thread=102#ixzz2BOvgkYha
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